1 bedroom, 1 bathroom Apartment in Upper West Side - Sleeps 4-7 People
$225 - $425 Per Day
Vacation Rental Description
Amazing one bedroom in best Manhattan neighborhood, next to Central Park and Natural History Museum. Very comfortable queen-sized Kingsdowne mattress in
bedroom and sofa bed sleeps two more. Folding beds and crib available with advance request. One or two blocks to many trains and buses. On sixth floor of
elevator building. Large (40") flat panel television with hundreds of stations and HD programming. Cell phone available with advance request for additional charge.
Enjoy the city!
Property Reference
19816
satisfaction or making the transition you want. Instead of simply allowing our fears to be, most of us
find ways to numb and distract ourselves from them — working excessively, watching TV, using drugs
and alcohol, and so on.
This exercise involves at least temporarily removing those distractions from your life. To
understand and transcend your fears, you need to get acquainted with them, and you can't do that unless
you stop diverting your attention from what you're really feeling. As Mark Linden O'Meara explains in
The Feeling Soul: A Roadmap To Healing And Living, “[J]ust as a doctor becomes quiet and uses a
stethoscope to listen to a patient's heart, so too must you quiet the things around you, focus and listen to
what is going on inside. Doing this allows you to obtain the information you need to gain the awareness
required to create a shift in your feelings, behaviors and thoughts.”
For just one day, as you go through your routine, experience as much silence as you can. This
means not only the absence of unnecessary noise, like the TV or radio, but also the absence of
compulsive, unproductive activities like endlessly checking e-mail, fidgeting, and playing solitaire on
the computer, and the absence of distracting, numbing chemicals like alcohol from your body. On a
deeper level, see if you can actually quiet the needless mind activity you engage in on a regular basis.
This includes things like talking to yourself, playing songs to yourself “in your head” and reliving
events from the past.
Many people are surprised for two reasons by how difficult this exercise is. First, whenever they
remove a distraction from their lives, they find themselves unconsciously bringing it back. When I
started doing this myself, I'd turn off my car radio, only to find myself almost automatically reaching to
turn it on again. Doing this exercise thus requires you to pay close attention to ensure you don't simply
reactivate all the distractions you're trying to silence.
Second and more importantly, people are surprised by the flood of sensation they experience
when they, even momentarily, give up the many strategies they've been using to avoid what they feel.
Some people notice, for the first time, how tense their bodies are, and others have an intense rush of
anger or sadness.
Still others report feeling bored. But what is boredom, really? I tend to think it's just another
word for all the feelings and sensations we avoid experiencing through the various distractions we
bring into our lives. If boredom were just a matter of having nothing to do, or not enough stimulus, why
do people experience it as almost physically painful, and why are they willing to do nearly anything —
even self-destructive things like abusing drugs — to get rid of it? As psychologist Bruno Bettelheim
wrote, “Boredom is a sign of too many feelings, too deep and too hard to summon to the surface.”
Once you've eliminated your distractions, notice the sensations that emerge. Notice the places in
your body that become tight or otherwise uncomfortable, and the emotions that arise. Observe how
hungry, almost desperate, you are to bring your diversions back into your life. Consider the possibility
that what you're experiencing has actually resided in the background all the time — you've just grown
accustomed to diverting your attention from those feelings.
This exercise may seem irritating or stressful, but ultimately the only way to transcend your
fears is to fully allow yourself to feel them. Consciously or otherwise, you designed the distractions in
your life to avoid feeling your anxieties, and those distractions need to be at least temporarily discarded
if you want to come to terms with what's actually going on for you.
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